Intra and Interpersonal Skills

Today I am going to introduce what I have learnt in IIC. I have several skills that would be useful for my future, such(prenominal) as concentrate on positives when I am in bad moods, self-disclosure and giving positive response to criticism for better communication. However, these are not the about important aspects for me. This is because I cherish more on relationships. Besides, I dont have good relationship with family members. Also, friends cannot always be with me. Therefore, hit the sack is the only thing I pursue in my entire life. However, there are lots of barriers on my love path.My lovers just left me very soon and said you are besides good for me. I wondered if it is just simply an excuse for breaking up with me. After the Developing and Enriching Intimate Relationship lesson, I realized the reason that none of them want to stay with me and commented I am too good for them. This is because I am having obsessive love with them, giving them too much love and so pressure . This is one of the obstacles for love to the lecture notes. On the other hand, we didnt have a mutual direction for our future. We had intimacy and passion but no allegiance was involved. The first thing I have to do is self-love.This is because obsessive love only gives pressure to the other person. To have a healthy relationship, loving yourself is essential. Then, I have to plan a long-term involvement with that person. I used to have romantic loves. However, that is not I need, what I need is the consummate love. correspond to Sternbergs Triangular Theory of Love, consummate love includes intimacy, passion and commitment. I will be open and honest to let my relationship grows healthy. Learning to love doesnt just happen if we meet the right person. I believe if you want to have a good result, effort is necessary for it, horizontal love.